I put my big girl pants on and wrote this (anonymous - baby steps) reply in a therapist Facebook group where some participants were being ripped apart for expressing concern for detransitioners. Sharing here because I never do this, but I couldn't keep it to myself anymore. Consider this my very arbitrary breaking point...

"I am reflecting on my impulse to reply anonymously on this thread as well as my impulse to message another commenter privately. Why did I have either of these impulses? The fact that I had them says something about the state of our field right now. That there is a NEED to connect with people who express nuance - a reflection on how isolating it can feel to hold nuanced views. There is a fear of speaking out. The fear of speaking out only exacerbates the need for connection. I DO have thoughts about this, and those thoughts matter, and they are based on matters that I have learned about and observed, but I feel I can't share those thoughts here because of what I see happens to others who share their own nuanced thoughts (and I can already hear the angle that the thoughts themselves are unsafe which renders "nuance" moot. And to that I say: it's a heavy topic that requires thoughtfulness, discussion, and care.) I'll say this: I think there needs to be a discussion about research, legality, and personal and clinical experiences from multiple angles and that we as a field need to be able to discuss ideas without attaching our ideas to our ideologies. It pains me to see therapists get caught up in pile-ons, name-calling, and confirmation bias (one way or another). I see the field shifting and dividing and it genuinely scares me because I see clients being hurt or neglected as a result of our refusal to maturely discuss ideas with each other, instead resorting to blame, judgment, and assumption. I've said enough and I'm sure there's fodder in here to be criticized and condemned, even though I haven't even outlined my thoughts on this particular issue. Please bear in mind that I have not shared my stance and I have not made it clear what I even mean by nuance, and this is because I have chosen to withhold that information. Any meaning that others might make of my comment (or my identity, or how I vote, etc etc) cannot be derived from anything I've shared."